92: I Wish I Could Just Quit You | Justice League | Supergirl | Maid of Steel | Commitment

Under commitment, over commitment. We see it all in modern society. Carl, Brian and Emilee take a whack at dissecting what it is getting in our way, why we make promises we don't intend to keep or why we hold back from making any promises at all. It's Superhero Friday, though! Which means we're going to have a blast talking about all our favorite things, including Justice League (we promise only minor spoilers).

In This Episode

Emilee (Miss Ice) and Carl (CJ Thunder) join Brian!
Act your age, not your shoe size
Christmastime....is coming. Peppermint mocha, anyone?
Emilee has never had Eggnog?!
Commitment: we over commit and under commit
Being intentional about promises, about things we commit to
Being willing to have uncomfortable conversations
Honesty versus a perception of sparing someone's feelings (this can be done in a respectful way)
Justice League!

Just Quit

Remember the adage, nobody likes a quitter? Sometimes when this is used, it takes an action completely out of context. As I thought more about it, I was curious to find a couple interesting ways to consider how quitting is used to define and entrap people from making decisions.

Being a quitter could be viewed in two ways. 1) Someone who quits one particular thing at a particular moment in time. 2) An identifier for someone who gives up too soon. When things get hard, do you buckle down, reassess and try to figure the situation out? Or do you bail? We talk about commitments in this installment of the podcast and how, as a society, we tend to inadvertently undervalue other people in the long term in order to satisfy an immediate need to please others. Example: saying yes to something when asked, in order to make someone happy, without any intention on following through.

Is there a solution? Likely there isn't a one-size fits all solution, but I do believe we make terrible habits out of saying one thing and doing another. Often we're not intentionally being hypocritical, we're just trying to be nice. But I do think it stems from a mindset of being me-oriented instead of others-oriented. I have been very guilty of this in the past, and it's taken significant intentionality to learn how to kindly and patiently be honest with others even if the answer I have for them, or a response I have for them, is not what they want to hear.

What are your thoughts on the matter? Leave a comment below!